Since I’m going to be talking about my family a lot more than previously, it’s probably time I actually lay out who-all is in my family.
I know family life is always complicated, but mine is a bit more complicated than most, having two families-of-origin and a sprawling overlap of chosen family/polyamorous network.
My families of origin probably won’t be showing up that often, if only because (due to various kinds of distance) they just aren’t an active part of my life these days. Which is a sad.
Family of Origin 1
My birth family, including father, mother (recent deceased), 5 siblings, an aunt, a grandfather, a sister-in-law, and a sort-of uncle (my mother’s brother-of-choice) who I tend to forget exists half the time. (Sorry!)
Family of Origin 2
My adoptive family, including father (deceased), mother, brother, assorted aunts, uncles, and cousins, and apparently soon a sister-in-law.
Chosen Family/Polyam Network
Several of these folks will be coming up regularly. Especially in relation to generational household and old ‘woman’, but also sometimes also the farm. Often enough and enough detail that I went around and asked a bunch of them if they were okay being talked about and what name I should use for them.
- Michael — nesting partner, father of two of my children, my BDSM submissive & pet (24/7). They/them. Patronus is a demon.
- Michon — cuilmate, mother of two of my children, co-dom to Michael, head of family. Ze/hir. Patronus is a dragon.
- Dilip Numitor Amalia Chetana Waller — father of two of my children, Michon’s live-in co-parent, still figuring out where he fits in our weirdness. He/him. Told me to come up with a pseudonym for him, so I used my favorite random name generator. Now he’s stuck with it.
- C — girlfriend, LDR. She/her. Patronus is a cat.
- Ericka — Michael’s girlfriend & BDSM submissive, my friend. She/her. Patronus is probably a cat.
- B — sister-of-choice, auntie to two of my kids, mother to a kid of her own. She/her
Other folks who will also get mention from time to time:
- The five kids Tween, Kid 1, Kid 2, Kidling, and Kidlet. For those who have been following the blog a while, none of these were part of the custody battle I was involved in several years ago. Tween is B’s kid. The others are mine by birth or by choice.
- Michael’s brother-by-choice (J)
- J’s mom, whose become mom-by-choice to me and Michael (MB)
- Ericka’s Nana