- Children Raised in Polyamorous Relationships
- Explaining Polyamory
- Laws Impacting Polyamory
- Polyamory Books and Book Reviews
- Pregnancy
- STIs and Safe Sex
- Mental Illness
- Abuse
- Etiquette
- Finances and Budgeting
- Polyamory on Purpose Guides
- PostModern Woman Articles
- Uncategorized Posts
- Webserial
(Last updated May 8, 2017)
Children Raised in Polyamorous Relationships
- Polyamory and Children: Opening up?
- Telling Your Children about Polyamory
- Polyamory and Children: Introducing New SOs
- Polyamory and Children: Research Update
- Polyamory and Children: Legal Stuff
- Polyamory and Children: What do I call Mom’s Boyfriend?
- Polyamory and Children Guest Blog: Marmoset, Metamour and Ice Cream
- Polyamory Hurts Kids? Not in the Real World
- Laws and legal practices affecting our children
- Polyamory and Children: Child Custody Review
- Child Custody and Polyamory: Who is at Risk
- Child Custody Cases: How to Protect Yourself
- Resources for Custody Cases Involving Polyamory
- Introducing Your Polyamory Partners to Your Children
- Should You Tell Your Kids About Polyamory?
- Helping Our Kids Talk About Polyamory
- Talking with Your Child’s Teacher (or other professional) about Polyamory
- When Your Kids Discover Your Closeted Polyamorous Relationship
- Legal Options for Multi-Parent Polyamorous Families
- Polyamory and Child Custody (Guest Post by Gracie X)
- When Our Kids Face Discrimination for Our Relationships
- Meeting Other Polyamorous Families
- Raising Children in A Polyamorous Family Wrap Up
Explaining Polyamory
Laws Impacting Polyamory
- Polygamy and Marriage
- Family Names: Legal Stuff
- Polyamory Legal Challenges
- Laws affecting non-monogamy: bigamy, fornication, adultery, etc
- Laws affecting where we can live: health codes and zoning laws
- Laws and legal practices affecting our children: custody laws and child protective services, paternity laws, etc
- Laws and legal practices affecting our work: anti-discrimination laws (or the lack of them)
- Laws impacting our finances: inheritance law, joint property law, corporate law
- Laws and legal practices impacting our health: insurance law, privacy laws, hospital rules and regulations, medical power of attorney
- Legal Challenges to Polyamory Wrap Up
US State Laws
- Legal Status of Polygamy/Bigamy: United States A-G
- Legal Status of Polygamy/Bigamy: US H-L
- Legal Status of Polygamy/Bigamy: US M
- Legal Status of Polygamy/Bigamy: US N-Ne
Polyamory Books and Book Reviews
- The Polyamorists Next Door, by Dr. Eli Sheff
- Raf and the Robots
- The Husband Swap
- The Game Changer by Franklin Veaux
- Lesbian Polyamory Fic/Pics
- Poly Gay Fic
- Trans Poly Fic/Pics
- Stories from the Polycule, edited by Dr. Eli Sheff
- Designer Relationships by Mark A. Michael and Patricia Johnson
- Ask Me About Polyamory: The Best of Kimchi Cuddles, by Tikva Wolf
- Minority Representation in Polyamory Fics and Pics
- Polyamory Fic with Black Characters
- Polyamory Fics with Hispanic Characters
- Polyamory Fics with Asian Characters
Pregnancy
- Polyamory and Pregnancy – the introduction
- Planning for a Pregnancy
- Planning for the Unexpected – discussing the possibility of an unplanned pregnancy before it happens.
- Planning for the Expected – things to consider when trying to get pregnant in a polyamorous relationship
- Contraception and Fertility – planning how not to get pregnant
- Prenatal Care – dealing with doctors and hospitals (you might also want to check out Educating Poly-Friendly Professionals)
- Legal Stuff – filling out the birth certificate and determining paternity
- Picking Names – who is involved and how do you decide
- Poly Partners getting pregnant
- Help! My Husband’s Secondary is Pregnant! – also relevant to ‘Help! My wife’s secondary got her pregnant!’
- When Primaries have Children – and how it impacts the secondary(s)
- What Makes a Parent – being a parent can be much more then biology
- Taking a Break– sometimes, taking a break from polyamory to focus on pregnancy and a new child may be the right thing
STIs and Safe Sex
- STDs/STIs
- What are STD/STIs?
- STD/STIs Protection (Introduction)
- Protecting Against STD/STIs: Barrier Method
- Preventing STD/STIs: Testing Agreements
- Preventing STD/STIs: Be a Smart Slut – Open Relationships, Promiscuity and STD/STIs
- Protecting Against STD/STIs: Abstinence/Closed Relationships
- STD/STI Testing: Introduction
- Polyamory and STD/STIs: Getting Tested
- What Does STD/STI Testing Involve?
- STD/STIs: How often should I get tested?
- The Long List of STD/STIs
- Bacterial Vaginosis
- Chancroid
- Chlamydia
- Crab lice
- Cytomegalovirus (CMV)
- Genital Warts
- Granuloma Inguinale
- Gonorrhea
- Hepatitis (A, B & E)
- Herpes (1 & 2)
- HIV & AIDS
- Human Papillomavirus (HPV)
- Molluscum Contagiosum
- Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID)
- Pubic Lice (Crabs)
- Scabies
- Syphilis
- Trichomoniasis (Trich)
- Fluid Bonding and Safe Sex
- Safe Sex Vs Safer Sex
- HIV PrEP: Truvada
- Zika Virus: A New STI
- Everyone’s Safe Sex Definition Is Different
- Defining Safe Sex
- Safe Sex and STI Wrap Up
Mental Illness
- Polyamory and Mental Illness (Guest post by Clementine Morgan)
- Facts About Mental Illness for Poly Partners
- Opening Up About Mental Illness
- How Can I Support my Mentally Ill Poly Partner? (Part 1)
- How Can I Support my Mentally Ill Poly Partner? (Part 2)
- A Rant: “I Know I am Being Irrational Right Now”
- When Polyamory and Mental Illness Collide (Part 1)
- Living With Depression
- Polyamory Advice for the Mentally Ill: “Be with Your Emotions”
- Depressive Disorders and Polyamory
- Polyamory Advice for the Mentally Ill: “Communicate, Communicate, Communicate”
- Polyamory Boundaries and Mental Illness
- Living with Anxiety
- Anxiety Disorders and Polyamory
- Mental Illness: The Course of Treatment
- Fucked Up Parts of Mental Illness: Punishing Myself for Having Fun
- The Wrong Diagnosis (Guest Post by Michon Neal)
- Polyamory and PTSD (and other trauma and stress-related disorders) (Part 1)
- Polyamory and PTSD (and other trauma and stress-related disorders) (Part 2)
- Polyamory and Mental Illness Part II
- Polyamory and Mental Illness Recap
- Poly Advice for the Mentally Ill: “Set Clear Boundaries and Expectations”
- Poly Advice for the Mentally Ill: “You Control Your Emotions”
- Poly Advice for the Mentally Ill: You Need Talk about Problems
- Your Polycule Isn’t Your Relationship Counselor
- Poly Advice for the Mentally Ill: Avoid the Drama Triangle
- Polyamory, Schizophrenia, and other psychotic disorders (Part 1)
- Polyamory and Psychotic Disorders, Part 2
- The Impact of Executive Dysfunction on Relationships
- Polyamory and Psychotic Disorders, Part 3
- Poly Advice for the Mentally Ill: Use Direct Communication
- Mental Illness and Dating for Polyamorous Folk
- Mental Illness and Dating for Polyamorous Folk, Part II
- Mental Illness and Dating for Polyamorous Folk Part 3
Abuse
- Abuse in Polyamory
- What is Abuse?
- Types of Abuse
- “There’s no right way to do polyamory!” (But there’re lots of wrong ways)
- Abuse, Boundaries, and Incompatibilities in Mono/Poly Relationships
- Roots of Abuse: Intent, Insecurity, and Shitty Boundaries
- Living with an Abusive Metamour (Guest Post by Liz Gentry)
- Abuse and Mental Illness
- Abuse Isn’t the Only Wrong Way to do Polyamory
- When Your Partner Is in an Abusive Relationship
- When Polyamory Triggers Abuse
- When polyamory is a tool for abuse
- Am I Abusing my Polyamorous Partners?
- Salvaging an Abusive Relationship
- Surviving an Abusive Relationship
- Abuse in Polyamory Wrap Up
Etiquette
- The Polyamory Etiquette Guide
- The Building Blocks of Polyamory Etiquette
- The First Rule of Polyamory Etiquette: Don’t Be Afraid to Ask
- Introducing Your Polyamory Partners and Metamours
- The Etiquette of Unexpected Encounters
- Etiquette for Polyamory Partners and Children
- Polyamory Etiquette: Let’s Talk Invitations
- Formal Invitations for Poly Folk
- Polyamory Etiquette: Informal Invitations
- Telling a Date You Are Polyamorous
- Introductions in Polyamorous Relationships
- Introducing Your Polyamorous Partners to Each Other
- Meeting Your Metamour
- Metamours and “Disrespecting the Primary”
- Kitchen Table Polyamory, Parallel Polyamory, and Etiquette
- Managing Parallel Polyamory
- What Does Respect Mean in Polyamory?
Finances and Budgeting
- Polyamory Finances Blog Series
- Financial Entwinement
- Polyamory: Who Pays for Dates?
- Budgeting for Dates
- Polyamory Budgeting
- Guest Post: How Separate Bank Accounts Helped Make Our Open Marriage Work
- Budgeting with a House Spouse
- Two Things a Poly Group Home Needs to Save For
Polyamory on Purpose Guides
- The Polyamorous Home First Review
- The Polyamorous Home out in ebook!
- The Polyamorous Home, now in paperback!
- Safer Sex for the Non-Monogamous, Blog Hiatus, and Personal Stuff
Uncategorized Posts
- From Now On, I’m Saying “Polyam”
- Welcome Michon Neal to Polyamory on Purpose!
- Educating Polyamory Friendly Professionals
- Moving In Together
- Family Name – Decisions, Decisions
- Partner Preferences
- When Communication is a Bad Thing
- A Personal Digression: Custody Case
- Yay Life Insanity! (And Canadian Court Cases)
- More Personal Stuff (and some resources)
Somehow I thought…yay, I found Jessica, she’s gonna save me. But I don’t think I can be saved.
I’m sorry, Lea. I can offer tools and resources, some long distance support. But a superhero I am not. The only thing that can save a relationship is if everyone in the relationship is willing to honestly do the work to rebuild it. And sometimes even that doesn’t work.
I hope, whether you stay in your current relationship or strike out on your own, that you are able to find happiness and satisfaction with your life and the people in it.
Jessica
One question I don’t see answered anywhere involves caring for a terminally ill parent while in a poly relationship. Do you have any comments/resources specifically for that? Thanks!
Leo,
I’m afraid this is a question I can’t address right now. I’ll try to get back to you with other resources in a couple of days, but your best bet may be one of the polyam forums. I’m found /r/polyamory and polyamory.com to both have helpful communities with knowledgeable people.
Do you plan on continuing your US State laws series? Polyamorous Okie here.
Jasper, I had to stop updating all my polyamory stuff a few years ago. Everything here is archived, not active. However, one of the reasons I stopped updating my law series specifically what I thought Jason Cherry was doing a better job of the same topic. Here’s his post on Oklahoma: https://non-monodiscourse.blogspot.com/2011/12/non-monogamous-families-and-law-part-37.html
Best of luck to you