The Polyamorous Home

The Polyamorous Home by Jess Mahler

The Polyamorous Home by Jess MahlerPolyamorous relationships challenge the way mainstream society expects people to live. Mainstream assumptions about who sleeps where, how a family manages their money, and even who lives together, fail before the sheer variety of ways polyam folks build our relationships.

The Polyamorous Home is practical a guide for polyam folk on creating homes and living situations that suit our lives and our relationships. Whether you live alone or with a dozen of your partners, friends, and family, you can create a home life that works for you.

Alternative living arrangements
Budgeting for dates
Moving in together
Sleeping arrangements
Prioritizing the individual or the community
And more…

The Polyamorous Home is now available in paperback and ebook at Amazon and other online retailers.


From the Introduction:

One day I tweeted to ask people’s thoughts and experiences of bathrooms in a polyam home. One response said, “Get a home with three bathrooms.”

This may have been a joke. The person who tweeted it was a new follower, and I didn’t know them very well. I hope it was a joke. There is a popular (and wrong) conception that polyamory is for the middle-class. Polyam homes aren’t just for people who can afford a house with three bathrooms. They aren’t just for people who live in places that have indoor bathrooms in every home. Polyam homes can be tiny apartments for solo polyam folk or apartment buildings taken over by polyam groups. They can be cottages in the wilderness or marble foyered brownstones in New York. This book covers a small fraction of the ways a polyam home can function—no book could cover all of them. There are simply too many ways we can structure (or unstructure if you prefer) our living situations. My goal is to give some ideas and options for meeting the challenges of polyam living while remaining accessible and relevant to polyam people from as many walks of life as possible.

Over the years I have spoken with polyam folk from all over the world. The insight they shared has helped a great deal in making this book as inclusive as possible. However, my experiences color the information and ideas I offer. Please take what works for you and ignore what doesn’t.

2 thoughts on “The Polyamorous Home

  1. (First; yes B Swangin Webster is my legal last name. Thank you mom and dad and ex husband) LOL
    I would like to receive updates and other information on this. (We unofficially met on Twitter) I am a member of a 42 poly people group in DC area and we meet every Monday for drinks, stories and laughter. I live with my boyfriend and his wife and have done so for 3 years. We are about to build another home together. (we built a home 3 years ago but I was new and didn’t get my needs met and our husband has decided he wants a do over; so onward and upward to a bigger home and more neutral space for us all.
    My group and I will begin snap chat video’s every week chronicling our lives The Real DMV Poly is what it will be called.

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