About Jess Mahler


As a child, Jess was taken from her family and turned into a marionette. Bluff, stubbornness, and Valdemar enabled her to survive long enough to eventually cut her strings and, like Pinocchio, set out into the world to discover what it meant to be human.

She discovered her family, polyamory, and eventually herself. Part of discovering herself was discovering that she had within her the wellsprings of fantasy that had once helped her survive. So she started writing. And soon her life filled with fae, werewolves, and TVtropes.

In the middle of inventing parallel worlds and fantastical beasts, she lost her family again, joined a polyam quad, watched it disintegrate around her ears, spent some time networking, fell in love with and subdued a disabled demon, partly raised four children, and wrote a surprisingly popular essay on the value of gold toe-socks in polyam relationships.

That essay was the springboard to start writing about polyamory regularly, and she turned her 10+ years of polyam relationships into fuel for a blog about pregnancy, mental illness, legal stuff, and other practicalities of polyamory.

Today she spends time frying sufganiyot to keep her demon appeased. She writes fantasy stories and polyam advice while the dough is rising.

One thought on “About Jess Mahler

  1. Thank you so much for your blog, it is such a fantastic resource! I am so happy you took the time to build and maintain this, and I think you are helping so many people! Congratulations also on the custody fight, most people don’t get to win those things.. so happy yours was a happy ending.

    Can’t wait to read more of your posts 🙂

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